I’m hoping you are waking up every day, feeling more comfortable in the skin you are in, accepting more and more the miracle that you are.

But, believing and accepting are not two easy words. Belief and acceptance are a result of what we know and feel to be true –  not what we think. So, step 1 is to get to know you, so you can know what you believe and accept about you.

WHO ARE YOU? WHO ARE YOU? WHO ARE YOU? WHO ARE YOU?

Feminist mum is wondering how often you have actually thought about who you are – no, not what you are or who someone else says you are. But, who you are.

If you don’t know who you are, then you have no chance of being your authentic self.  Instead you will most likely be a person you sometimes don’t actually recognise, or be what someone else wants you to be or just be someone who morphs into the people around you and the real you becomes invisible.

I would love to encourage you to get into some deep thinking. Mystical – no, but deep, yes.  Try it next time you are thinking too much about stuff that gets you down or makes you anxious. Start by making an agreement with yourself to stop for a couple of minutes and dedicate your thinking to finding out more about you.

Recognise if you go straight to the negative bits or jump to conclusions or use toxic positivity like “I’m awesome” to deflect your thinking. I suggest putting on some calm music, sitting somewhere quiet and with your ‘I’m a miracle’ attitude, start to wonder, start to be curious.

The idea of curiosity is the new ‘black’ – Curiosity is about being filled with wonder, openness, being absolutely sure that you probably don’t know. It changes your thinking so you can stop making assumptions or judgements or believing all the myths that life has bombarded you with.

Who am I ?

Sounds simple but many people have no idea, they simply believe all the opinions that others have about them or believe they are a culmination of all their mistakes.  This is not the truth – this is crap.  Know who you are and there is a great chance you will live a life that you want, not one carved out by others and driven by insecurity.

This is a super pivotal point that your Feminist Mum wants you to embrace. Its like that old saying, if you don’t know where you are going, every road will take you there. If you don’t know who you are, its likely you will turn into whatever other people want – and this rarely ends well.

So, questions you might ask in discovering yourself:

• What are my values ? Try and think of at least 3 really important things that matter to you
• Did I make time for me sometime during this week? If not, why not?
• What makes me laugh ?
• What makes me cry?
• I feel like myself when ………  and I feel least like myself when ……….
• What makes me feel good and optimistic?
• What makes me feel sad?
• Who makes me feel safe? and Who doesn’t?
• Do you feel like you have a purpose in life? If so, what is it?
• What do I like to do outside of work or school?
• And, what are all your favourites – food, music, places, jokes, people, clothes, animals, birthday plans, holiday destinations
• And, your least favourite or all the above
• How would you choose to spend ‘the best day’ if money didn’t matter

Its likely that it will take time to find answers to some questions, but the sooner you start, the sooner you will get to know you. You might find that some of your answers will change over time – and that’s ok, we all grow and that’s human.  Have fun introducing yourself to the real YOU.

Cheers to you, driving change on the freeway of love  

xx